Are Smartphones driving friends away!

Description: It’s probably better to talk: How checking our phones 60 times a day is driving away friends

Date: Dec 1, 2012


Young people’s attachment to their mobile phones is eroding their personal relationships, according to a new study.  The claims come after research revealed that young adults – in addition to sending over 100 texts – check their mobile up to 60 times a day.  Experts behind a new study have now said compulsively checking a mobile phone is an addiction similar to compulsive spending or credit card misuse.  Read Rest of Story

Questions for discussion:

1. Do you feel cell phone usage has a detrimental affect on personal relationship development?  Why or Why Why not?

2.  Should young people be regulated as to how much usage of their cell phones they are allowed?  Who should be doing the regulating?



26 thoughts on “Are Smartphones driving friends away!

  1. Heather Allan

    I am definitely addicted to my phone. I have it with me at all times, I almost never turn it off, and I even keep it beside my bed when I sleep. I am constantly checking not only for text messages but all other communication sources such as Viber, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram…just to name a few. However, I had never considered how much time I have actually wasted whilst on my phone. Seven hours a day checking an electronic device just seems ridiculous to me. The question is am I simply attached to my phone, or is it an addiction. In 2012, Atchley and Warden suggested applying several definitions of additions to cell phone usage; tolerance, withdrawal, increased use; inability to cut back on use; reduction of competing behaviors; and engaging in the behaviour despite risks and negative consequences. After evaluating my response to all of those I am worried I might be addicted. Many people see their phone as part of their self concept. However cellphones can actually take away from your ‘self concept’. It can interfere with important aspects of life such as work, school, socializing. But is it addiction…or is it an emerging form of social interaction. We have grown up with cell phones and have tied our social lives to these devices. Social interaction might actual be the force driving the incredible amount of cell phone usage. I believe what needs to be considered is the where and when we use our devices. Not in the classroom, not in the middle of a face to face conversation, not while we are driving, not while we are having a meal, not while we are with others. The key is to monitor when we use our phones as to not lose contact with the real world.

  2. Cameron Pituley

    In my mind, cell phone usage is negatively effecting social interaction but creating possibilities for growth of personal relationships. Unlike ever before, people are now able to communicate at any time at any place in the world. I think cell phones are a prime example of why this is possible. Cell phones don’t just text or make a call any more. They are mini computers that can instant message, game, email, and even complete research tasks. Personal relationships do not necessarily need to be physical. Many people now meet online and even become very good friends despite never interacting in real life. Online or over the phone, you can be anyone you want if you have never met the person you are talking to before. This allows people with self esteem issues to build their ability to talk to people and maybe one day transfer it to a social setting. I strongly feel the best way to work on social abilities is in a non-digital or non-virtual setting. Social ability in the world is definitely decreasing. It is more and more common for kids to be inside on the computer rather than out playing sports and riding their bikes together engaging in face to face interactions. The ability to talk in front of people in a face to face setting is much different than sitting in a chat room discussing your beliefs or giving a lecture. People do need to take a step back and realize that when you are out with friends, on a date, or in social setting, that you should embrace the social stimulation and leave cell phones and your virtual life be for the time being. It is still important in most jobs to be able to interact with co-workers and clients in a real-time setting. These skills need to be learned somewhere.

  3. Liz Martin

    This short article made me ask a lot of questions, many to which I haven’t thought of an answer yet. I haven’t addressed all the ideas in the article but the following were slightly more interesting to me.
    I learned in psychology that some people are more predisposed than others to develop addictions due to the differences in the brain. I think the article ignores this and uses the assumption that all people have the same capacity to develop addictions, and then scares us into thinking that everyone who uses a phone has a serious problem and is hacking apart their social relationships with them. I think that a lot of people have the ability to control their impulses, and thus their cell phone use.
    For those people who are predisposed to developing addiction; wouldn’t they have become addicted to something else along the road anyway? If this is the case, is it better to be addicted to a cell phone than a substance? Or should we control cell phone use so that they can become addicted to alcohol? Or online spending? Perhaps the cell phone addiction is the least of the evils.
    There is research that attests cell phone use and multitasking to decreases in concentration ability. The research says that there is a misconception about multitasking – that we believe our brain is doing a whole bunch of things at the same time. What is actually happening is that we are alternating our attention very rapidly between the tasks – so that we are doing each one for short periods of time. Because this is how we are “training” our brain to behave, it starts to behave that way normally, which is why we have such a hard time staying focused on one item for long periods of time. But as the dynamics of the world change, and we are prompted for this behavior everyday, would it not be more adaptive to be able to think like this? Does cell phone use facilitate this kind of thinking? We seem reluctant to let the importance of being able to concentrate on the same thing for 8 solid hours go.. what if in the future this isn’t as useful a skill? The world is changing, perhaps we should view this as more of an adaptation and less of a break down in societal values. I do think that the ability to concentrate and focus our attention is very important, and I know that there are other serious side effects to multitasking, but I’m curious to ask questions about both sides of the argument. On the plus side, the computerized grading software won’t know that I wrote my essay in 4 minute chunks over the course of 3 days :p.
    Personally I do think it’s disrespectful to be glued to your cell phone during face-to-face interactions. When I’m making the effort to interact with someone I expect them to put their phone down. But for me even this line is becoming a little less clear – what if it’s an important text message? How do we judge importance and who receives more attention, the person I’m talking to who is physically with me or the person I’m talking to via text?
    I think it comes down to achieving balance in our lives, if I’m going to devote attention to someone I’ll give them the same amount regardless of the means in which I’m communicating with them. I do think it’s super annoying when someone asks me to go for coffee and texts the whole time, but maybe I am too conservative in my thinking too.

  4. James Mahoney

    I used to have an iPhone 3 until early 2011 when I ended up losing it in a cab. I was still in high school at the time and for the next two weeks I didn’t have a phone because I couldn’t afford to get a new one and had to wait for a paycheck from my work. For the next two weeks I soon realized how reliant I was on my cell phone. It became hard to make plans with friends since I could not be reached anywhere at anytime. The other change that came was that I wasn’t being completely mentally stimulated 24/7 by a device, with things such as apps. After realizing these things I ended up getting a phone that could only text and call. It was a nice change and freed up a lot of time that I didn’t realize I was wasting. Cell phone use has both positives and negatives. It’s great if you actually use it to meet up with other people, but I always get a laugh when I see a group of people “hanging out” but all of them staring at their phones with nothing to say to each other. I don’t think that cell phone use should be limited, but kids and young adults need to realize that there is a bigger world other than there 2 by 4 screen in front of them. I feel cell use may be detrimental in extreme quantities but there should never be a cap on an interaction device such as a cell phone.

  5. Brad Zhang

    I think this article is over estimated the effect of smart phone on socializations. Honestly, smart phones do have effect on people’s socialization but the effect is not very significant and it is obviously positive effect. The idea of the smart phone usage has detrimental affect on personal relationship development is not correct. The appearance of phone over one hundred yeas ago updated the ways of human connection, and now the smart phone promotes the update positively even more. More than making phone calls and text, one small piece device can help people on scheduling, receiving and sending emails, searching information, navigating, etc. Nothing in the human civilization has ever been so helpful before. It cuts the barriers of space and time between human communication, people can even development their relationship much easier than before. The only reason that blocks the relationship development between people, I believe, it is human itself. It is not right to blame smart phones for the mistakes that human beings made.
    It is true that young people should not use the smart phone for communication more than going out to the nature. Usage of smart phone requires basic social skills and interpersonal knowledge. So parents and schools have the responsibilities of teaching and monitoring young people to use smart phone correctly. Youth must have learn the communicating skills and respect each other first, or smart phone and other modern communication tools could neither help their socialization.

  6. Ahmed Awad

    With respect to this topic, people can correctly argue on both sides. Once can say that smartphone enhance people’s communication with others and this is because people travel more often and they are not colonized anymore. As we are today, we humans need media and information to consume, and we tend to be hungry for more media and ways to socialize with each other; and smartphones are our “holy grail”. They allow us consume media, like no tomorrow, find more ways to socialized with one another, doing all this in easier and more efficient ways. For example, if a person wants to hang-out with his friend who lives on the other side of the city, he would not just waste 10-15 min drive to his friend to just ask him if he wants to hang out with him; the more effective way is to send him a message and wait for his reply.
    However people can also argue that smartphone has a severe effect on personal relationships. While this perhaps can be somewhat correct, I must say, just like anything smartphones if you misuse them, they will come back and hurt you and in not just relationships development but with anything. It comes down to the people who use it; it can both help and perhaps destroy relationships. We can also say that as time progress we will find different means to efficiently consume media and be more socialize more effectively; and socializing is not and won’t be the done in the same as it has been before and this is because of the new advancement of technology and our needs to both consume media and to socialize with each other.

  7. Yaqian Diao

    Nowadays, an increasing number of people are using Smartphone. It has become a trend, especially in the school and university. Including some basic functions such as making a call and sending message, the main reason people consider to choose Smartphone is quick access to Internet, which help greatly to improve the level of life, and ease our stressful life. Smartphone combines lots of applications in a small apparatus. For example, people can play games, surf Internet, and communicate with their friends and family by MSN, facebook and wechat, wherever they are. It also enhances the job efficiency. With data plan, customers can check email and conduct screen conferencing anytime.
    On the other hand, Smartphone make a contribution to our life, at the same time, there are also some hidden danger. First of all, as what the article “Are Smartphone driving friends away” says, because people pay too much attention to Smartphone, it will have a bad effect on the friendship. Not only at home, but also at the workplace and school, have many people focused on Smartphone without saying a word for a long time, even in the party. Secondly, people rely on the blogs too much. They can’t live without checking their facebook or MSN every day, which takes a large amount of time, including the time to sleep. It seems like that people are living in the society, at the same time they break away from the society. It does harm to human’s healthy and relationship.
    People take full advantages of Smartphone, and we also lose something important.

  8. Jingyi Wang

    The relationship between cell phone usage and friendship has been a hot topic for several years. with the develpment of thecnology, people spend more and more time dealing with thecnology products. There is an obviously phenomenon, when friends get together on the table, everyone gets their cell phone on hand and type or send messages, some people will check his or her facebook and others may play cell phone games, but the strange thing is no one thing this situation is abnormal, they are all used to it.
    Just as the article said, we are getting away from our friends and we havn’t notice that. According to the survey, ” yong adults send over 100 texts and check up their mobie up to 60 times a day” they are spending nearly 3 hours a day to interact with the cell phone, and the trend is increasing rapidly.
    Although it is a hard work to do so, we need to take methods to stop young adults from using their cell phones so much everyday. while, the convience brought by the cell phone has made it a tough task to take young adults away from the cell phone. I also have no idea who should be the regulating people.

  9. Tammie Tuccaro

    I do strongly believe that cell phone usage in regards to the addicting habits that are being formed are having major impacts on all types of relationships that a person experiences. Nowadays not only the young people but all people as a whole rely so much on their phones especially since a majority of cell phones are now smartphones – mini computers in the palm of your hand. Do to this phenomenon that the human race has to face no longer are people learning how to communicate let alone deal with conflict. With that said, relationships get quickly ruined because people aren’t understanding each other. In my personal relationship, we have a rule that when we are out on dates there is no checking our phones unless it is to call the babysitter.

    In regards to regulating cell phone usage, that is a tough one because like the question, who is going to regulate it? If you are a parent then you should be the one in control as you are the parent plus the one paying the bill. My nine year old daughter keeps asking for a phone because all the other kids have one. She doesn’t need it as she already has an ipod and has figured out how to text on that gadget. Also, she needs to learn how to talk to people and not type a couple words to them and then be misunderstood. As for the amount of time on these smartphones, in reference to young people it doesn’t state the age group that they are referring to.

  10. Matthew Malm

    I firmly believe that cell phone usage does not have a detrimental effect on relationship development. I believe cell phone use encompasses the use of services such as email, instant messaging, and talking via the phone. So with all those services in mind, a person can communicate to a variety of people in a variety of different locations at any given time. I believe this has allowed a lot of people to develop new found personal relationships with family members and new friends. However, I do believe the cell phone is disadvantageous to conversation in face to face communication. Many people prioritize their cell phones over speaking to someone directly in front of them. With that in mind, I believe there should be a higher level of regulation in cell phone use towards minors, especially in the contract-based markets. Minors should not be allowed to sign up for $40-$60 monthly smart phone contracts when they are unemployed. In the exception that said minor is employed, they should be allowed to sign a contract. Otherwise, the use of a cell phone should be at the discretion of the parent. The article did not really identify any real negatives of using cell phones frequently. The biggest problem that the article examined was addiction, a completely unrelated topic to cell phone usage since a mental addiction can be towards anything. The increased usage of cell phones by youth is not really a negative since said youth may also be subjected to an increase in the frequency of interactions as a result. This would inevitably result in a better understanding of social interaction by the youth.

  11. Jill

    To suggest that cell phone usage, and especially smartphone usage, has not changed the way humans communicate would be a blatant lie. While the technology has increased our ability to stay connected with the people around us, the two-dimensional nature of the written word does not allow for the richness of an established emotional connection with other humans. So, yes, cell phone usage can have a detrimental affect on personal relationship development. Like all distractions, smartphone users need to know when to turn it off and engage with the people around them. For parents of children and teenagers, this is unchartered territory since parents are as new to smartphones as their children. It is vital then, for parents to set a good example of the appropriate time spent on a smart-phone so their children can learn. Parents must work with their children to evaluate how their child is using the technology. By the time a child is a university student, the student should know how to balance their smart-phone use and how to have a relationship and be able to navigate a complex relationship with another human being. As for regulation, a child needs to learn how to self-regulate. It is not be practical to try to regulate cell phone usage and what is an appropriate length of time spent with on a cell phone by one person may not be the appropriate length for another. University students are adults, and adults know they are the ones who must live with the consequences of their own choices.

  12. Blake Bolton

    I think this article’s title was misleading. I might have missed it because it’s late and I’m not as sharp as I should be, but nowhere in the article did I see any info on the negative effect smart phones have towards relationships. The only line I noticed was a quote from Dr. Roberts “They’re also eroding our personal relationships” Which almost seemed like an afterthought. This article more proves that smart phone usage is an addiction similar to substance abuse. The conclusion can be drawn that dependency on smart phones can be disastrous to people if forced to communicate without it due to their dependency, but it’s not very clear.
    That aside, I do believe smart phones are eroding relationships. Humans thrive on interaction, and I have a unique perspective on this. While working in Central America I would go long periods of time without interacting with anyone. The longest period I experienced was either seven or eight days without speaking to anyone, and it definitely had an unsavory effect on my state of mind (so did all the video games I was playing and wine I was consuming, but that’s beside the point). People need interaction, face to face or even simply voice, where you can hear the emotions of other individuals. This cannot be recreated by text.
    As for the regulation for smart phone usage, I’m at a loss. I’m not sure how any regulatory body would be able to control smart phone usage. I think the best course of action would be to promote awareness, similar to other addictions.

  13. Regi Rocha

    I my case cell phone usage help to connect and improve my personal relationship development. This is because I and my wife both have busy lives with different schedules and we do not see each other often during the week. Therefore, our cell phones help us to communicate through text or phone during the day. I understand that they can be addictive and convenient, you contact anyone in the world anywhere and anytime, but as humans we need to police ourselves to avoid crossing the line, being rude or just not using common sense. Cell phone is great but there are other applications that distract us or help us to kill time. Years ago we depended on magazines while waiting for the doctor or dentist, nowadays we have our Smartphone to check the latest news or play games.
    I think young people should be regulated in the usage of their cell phones and the content. Parents should first check and see texts, frequency, contacts, emails and usage. Furthermore parents should check for any in appropriate pictures or content on their phone. Schools also should teach etiquette of cell phone use such as the appropriate time and place to use them. Teachers should be aware of bullying on line using Smartphone. In conclusion, I am not sure if smart phones are causing friends to go away, but I am positive that true friends are more enjoyable face to face, maybe talking and drinking in the pub, doing something together, but to remain friends only on line I don’t think is healthy or right.

  14. Rongxiang Zhang

    I think cell phone usage has a detrimental effect on personal relationship development. Reasons are as follows. First of all, cell phone is not as direct as face-to-face communication. People use symbols in their messages to try to express their emotion, but it is hard for receiver to know sender’s emotion correctly. Then due to the uncertainty and misunderstanding, conflict may emerge, which detriment the development of personal relationship. Secondly, as people spend more and more time on checking their phones, they spend less and less time with their friends. Imagine when you and your friend are sitting together, and you hope that you two can talk some fun things, but your friend always check his phone. Then what do you feel? You will feel disappointment. That really destroys the personal relationship. Moreover, there are many online communication applications for smart phones, like Facebook app, Twitter app, etc. Instead chatting with your friend in detail about what’s going on, people tend to click “like” or share the link. Thus, communication reduced among people. Therefore, I think using cell phones detriment the development of personal relationship.
    I think young people should be regulated to use cell phone since it distracts them when they are studying. However, it is not easy to regulate them from using cell phone. So I think it is not feasible to reduce young people’s usage of cell phone, though I feel their parents should regulate their usage of cell phone.

  15. Hailin Wu

    No matter we like it or not, technology will only be raging increasingly. I do not believe checking cellphone 60 times a day an addiction similar to compulsive spending or credit card misuse. They are different when we use cellphones for communication or information searching. Thinking of this psychologically, just because we want to approach our friends, we use a relatively new way, which is commonly applied in our social circle, to socialize. Testing message is not the only function a smart phone provides. Then, where does the “average 6 hours” come from”?

    Just imagine that when an American does not have MSN app in his/her cellphone, a Chinese does not have QQ app in his/her cellphone, a Taiwanese does not have Yahoo in his/her cellphone, or a Korean does not have KakaoTalk in his/her cellphone, he/she will definitely be treated as a “geek”. What they are trying to do is exactly to adapt to the friend circle – just because they do not want to be kicked out. The experts do not like the number of the result of the research is because it is new and updating fast, but don’t you feel everything is new and updating fast? We cannot blame technology for the reason that children addict to it. Just like a few years ago, some “experts” said computers should be prohibitted because of children addiction to games. It is narrow.

    In other words, young people will addict to everything they like due to their human nature. We adults cannot avoid the addiction, but we can guide the direction. As long as they are not using the cellphone unethically or illegally, it would not be a big deal.

  16. Songxuan Wu

    Cell telephone is so common nowadays that almost young people has got one, to some extent, young people can easily to contact others. But in my opinion, the cell phone has a detrimental effect on personal relationship development. Some young people depend on their cell phone such as they check their cell phone frequently but no new information received. When they forgot to take cell phone outside, they would feel upset and panic. Seriously, some young people get a new psychological illness which is mobile phone addiction. The adolescence is an important period to everyone’s personality development and communication relationship. If a young person pays attention on the texting expression, it would bring a bad effect on face to face communication, young people even been afraid of direct human contact. To sum up, Cell phone provides convenience on contact, but its negative affect should be thinking deeply.
    There is no clear regulation about young people how to use their cell phone. Parents can tell their children that the damage of frequently using cell phone. For example, cell phone radiation would injure their brand and decrease the chance of face to face with friends. Young people may consciously decrease the time of using cell phone by those repeatedly advise. If children ignore these advice and still use cell phone frequently, their parents must compulsively expropriate children’s cell phone a long time. When children decrease the dependence on their cell phone, they will continue to use cell phone but they should be controlled the hours of use.

  17. Calvin Chu

    Technology allows us to be constantly e will have a smartphone with them all the time. Phones can do a lot for us, for examplconnected to the world, but it can also make us even more disconnected from each other. Nowadays, almost everyone, texting, take photos, and check
    stuffs online and so on. It is really common to see people keep typing/using their phone even when they are having supper with friends/family. This will lead us less focus on the people we are hanging out but more on other stuffs. This will absolutely affect the relationship. Also, cell phone usage decrease face to face interaction between people. However, I do not consider cell phone usage will have a detrimental effect on personal relationship development. I am from Hong Kong; I miss not only my parent but also my friends in my country. I often chat with them though phone. Therefore, to answer the question. On the one hand, cell phone usage can be harmful to relationship development, on the other hand, it can help on the development. It really depends on how long you use your cell phone and what are you doing with your phone.
    In my opinion, I suggest to set a rule or anything to not allow certain age of kid to have a cell phone rather than limit their cell phone usage. Because as they are old or mature enough, they will understand and control themselves to not spend too much time on cell phone. Parents should be aware on their kid on how much time they spend on cell phone per day.

  18. Litchi Peng

    1. In my opinion, everything has two sides. It really depends on different situations. Nowadays, everybody has a cell phone especially young people. There is no doubt that it is very convenient to use a phone to contact people. Some people would like to say that cellphones can drive people away from each other and it decreases the time people spend with their friends and families. However, cell phone usage can make let people keep in touch no matter how where and when. Foe me, I could not live without my cellphone. In my situation, I am in another country, and my parents are not with me right now. They always want to contact me; otherwise they would be worried about me. In addition, when I encounter something make me unhappy, I always want to talk to my good friends who are in China. I feel the cell phone usage like a bridge connect me and families and friends.
    2.Young people should be regulated as to how much usage of their cell phones they are allowed. For kids, they better not have a cell phone until the specific age. Actually, I think the cellphone companies can offer some grogram for kids. Parents can purchase that kind of cell phone usage for their kids. However, for young people, they should be doing the regulating by themselves. They should how to control themselves that not only focus on cellphones and ignore their regular lives. It really wastes time in using cellphones.

  19. Carlie Willimont

    I do believe that cell phone usage can be detrimental to face-to-face interactions between people. However I don’t agree that cell phones can harm personal relationships but actually believe they can improve personal relationships. It’s obvious that pulling your cell phone out at the dinner table or in a classroom to text your friends can be seen as rude and disrespectful and therefore be detrimental to a face to face interaction. This is because now instead of talking to the people you are sitting with you have ignored them which lowers your relationship with them. However I do believe that cell phones have the capacity to greatly improve personal relationships especially in adolescents. For example students starting at a new school, sports team or project the first thing you do is try and meet people and make friends connecting with people and exchanges numbers is important in connecting with these new people and making friends. Also long distance friendships can be enhanced through instant messaging and social media, which keeps your personal relationship in tact even from, distances.

    I don’t believe that setting limits to adolescents cell phone usage is acceptable or a good solution. If an individual is old enough to have a cell phone then they shouldn’t have any restrictions on appropriate use. Being old or mature enough to have a cell phone generally means the individual has social skills and respect and therefore would understand when it isn’t appropriate to use a cell phone. Therefore instead of focusing on cell phone usage restrictions people should be focusing on why children at such a young age have a cell phone.

  20. Nathan Duncan

    I feel that cell phone usage has had a detrimental affect on personal FACE to FACE relationships; however, when looking at personal relationships in the age we are today if anything it may have enhanced how many personal relationships a person has and keeping in contact with multiple friends and family has become extremely easier and more frequent. Looking at the data posted can be taken either such way. If one is to look at it as that person is in contact with someone over 100times (texts) per day how could one truly argue that the relationship is declining? I do agree with the issues of not talking face to face, but this is not 1950 anymore and technology is not simply going away so society as a whole must accept the changes that they themselves have allowed to happen.

    The regulation of cell phone usage with teens is simple. Their parents. No one else should be responsible for how much their teens use their phones than the parents who are paying the bills and more than likely purchased the phone for their kid in the first place….Maybe if the kids had to pay for their own cellphone and cellphone bill they wouldn’t be texting 100 times a day and would be more moderate with their cellphones…that’s if they had them in the first place. The pressures on today’s youth to have Facebook, cellphones, and twitter ect ect is huge, but why? What has changed in the past 5-10 years even to when most of us were in high school? The only thing that has changed is the availability of growing technology at cheaper prices. Once the majority has something especially at such a delicate age the minority pushes to have that too and what society gets is almost every teen in the modern world with a cellphone.

  21. Sean Annis

    I think that cell phones cause a strain to relationships in the physical connection between people. However, cell phones also stimulate contact with many other persons throughout the day. I would only go so far to say cell phones are detrimental to how things used to be. Technology and society are both evolving and the cell phone just like the computer are allowing us to be less “hands on” with the things we do in our lives. My personal opinion on cell phones is that when you are with other people and you are interacting, one should refrain from being on their cell phone out of respect for the other person. When you are able to use your cell phone, without disrespecting others, it can be a powerful tool and asset to one’s life.

    Based on where society is with laws and social norms i would say that kids should be regulated but only by their parents. I feel it is the parents’ duty to teach their children about respecting others and about when it is and when it is not appropriate to use a cell phone. Since cell phones are now comparable to handheld computers, parents should watch their kids more closely with respect to what they are doing on the internet. Child predators, privacy issues, social bullying, and pornography represent a few concerning topics that with smart phones are all accessible through “smart” cell phones.

  22. Brad Melchin

    I feel that cell phone usage has a detrimental affect on personal relationship development, but I feel the same way for all electronics. I’ve seen couples at restaurants texting on their phones rather than communicating with each other. I have even hung out with friends that would rather text and play on their phones than spend time watching a movie or conversing. Using your cell phone can become an addiction, and I see addicts everywhere. It almost seems like texting or emailing with your phone has just become “easier” than actually talking to someone face to face. Then since they become out of practice from actually socializing with people, they forget how to handle a real conversation. This has a huge negative impact on personal relationship development.

    Young people should definitely be regulated on the usage of their cell phones. For starters, people under the age of 16 shouldn’t even be allowed to have a cell phone. Or if they do have one, they should only be allowed to use it for calling purposes. But for people that actually text and use the cell phone for other purposes, it is hard to say how it should be regulated. I find it handy to be able to check emails and search something up on the internet now and then, and I wouldn’t really want someone regulating that. The best thing they could do is limit the number of texts, so that conversations can’t be had, but you would still be able to say quick messages like “On my way!”. It would be fair if a combination of the government and one’s service provider did this type of regulating.

  23. Kristina Madarasz

    I do believe that cell phone use is affecting our personal relationship development. Especially when it comes to those who are using it on the extreme end. Some people hide behind their phones to avoid difficult or uncomfortable situations where they might have voiced an opinion if they weren’t distracted. Personally, I know that my grandparents find it difficult to communicate with me when i’m constantly checking my phone while I am in front of them. I use my cell phone in front of them because I have no idea what to talk to them about and am uncomfortable. If I did not have my phone on me at all, I am sure I would be able to come up with a topic of conversation and my grandparents would feel more comfortable around me. I know my Dad especially does not approve when I text someone back at the dinner table. He finds it rude and could be driving a wedge between our relationship if he constantly sees me as being disrespectful.

    With that being said, I do not believe that cell phone use should be regulated for young people. I think it is up to their parents to teach them right from wrong and show them when their phones are appropriate to use and not appropriate to use. Even if phones were regulated, young people would still find a way to use them. For example: cigarettes. They have been made illegal to young people, yet they are still finding ways to start smoking at very young ages.

  24. Victoria Wells

    No, I do not believe that cell phone usage has had a detrimental effect on personal relationship development. If anything, cell phones enhance a person’s ability to communicate with others. It can be said that people are no longer socializing in the same way that has been done over the years, but that is due to the era that we live in! We live in the age of technology and social media. New forms of socializing are formed out of this technology! Instead of face-to-face interactions, people are calling/texting/emailing/Skyping/etc. each other. Cell phones enable a person to keep in contact with those who live farther away. While some believe that the quality of digital interactions may not be as great as interactions that are face-to-face, it all boils down to a preference. Those who prefer face-to-face interactions will seek those from their friends/peers/family/etc. while those who prefer to keep in contact digitally will do so. As someone who attends a commuter University, many of my friends do not live in the same location as I do. This renders face-to-face interactions over the summer difficult and costly. Having a cell phone enables me to keep in touch with people who I may not see for months at a time. If this technology was not available, my personal relationships would suffer due to a lack of constant connection.
    That being said, I do not support the addiction so many people have with their cell phone. If a digital interaction is keeping someone from connecting with those around them, then it is a detriment! When someone is too busy on their cell phone to interact with you – say, at the dinner table – it leaves an impression that you are not worth their time. Cell phones have their use, but if it prevents someone from interacting with those around them, then it will result in the decay of those relationships.

  25. Xinying

    Cell phone is very useful in this century. Almost everyone have it. Some of them are texting or calling, others are playing games. I feel cell phone usage has a detrimental affect on personal relationship development. In our society, people like to eat together. Before serve the dishes, people always check their cell phones or play cell phone games. They are lack of communication now which makes things weird. Sometimes they just do not talk to each other. All most all of them are busy using their cell phone. Also, people are more depend on cell phone than before. People will like to say their feelings through cell phone. For example, if a boy like a girl, he will like to text her to say his feeling other than face her. If a couple wants to end their relationships, they may use cell phone to contact to each other to end it. Using cell phone to do these kinds of things is making people feel they are not important. Relay on cell phone is a not a good way for people to live. When people use cell phone to text message, people do not know their expressions which make this communication not good. The best way to deal with cell phone is not always relay on it. It is only a means of communication. Do not let cell phone to drive our lives. Face to face communication is better than using cell phone which we can see each other’s expressions.

  26. Kai Zhao

    1.It really depends on the situation. Some people would say that cell phone usage would decrease the face to face communication and drive friends away. Others may argue that cell phone usage offers friends a convenient and easy way to chat no matter how far away they are from each other. I would say it depends on how the users use them. As an international student, cell phone usage helps me keep in touch with my family and friends back in my hometown. In this situation, I feel cell phone drive me and my friends even closer. However, I do realize sometimes people spend a lot of time on chatting by using cell phones and Internet software, it makes people think they have no real lives.
    2.Young people should regulate how much time and energy they spend on cell phones, and they should regulate by themselves since no one can keep an eye on them all the time. Or the cell phone company could regulate them by charging more from the fees. For example, companies could set various price levels by setting different amount of cell phone usage. Usually young people are restricted economically. According to the article, “young adults send over 100 texts and check their mobile up to 60 times a day.” Let us say each text takes 1 minute, each time they check up their mobile is also 1 minute. Thus, young adults probably spend 2 to 3 hours on chatting with friends by a machine instead of real talks, so they get to regulate their usage of cell phones.


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